Imagine the following scenario: You’re standing in front of the mirror, looking at your reflection and instead of smiling and looking in awe, you’re mentally criticizing every curve down to the smallest detail.
Sounds familiar? If so, know that you are not alone. Sexual confidence is directly related to your self-confidence, and it – to the quality of your intimate life. The good news? Confidence isn’t just the privilege of cover models, but something every woman can build for herself.
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The key to sex appeal is not in the measures, but in the attitude
Forget the clichés that you have to have a “perfect” body to feel beautiful and desirable. The truth is, the sexiest women are the ones who exude confidence. It has been scientifically proven that confidence makes a person more attractive than any particular feature of appearance.
Do you know what’s the common denominator amongst every person who is perceived to be ‘wow‘ and has killer confidence? They don’t apologize for the way they are perceived. They don’t cover up, or overly criticize themselves – they wear their body with pride. And guess what? That energy is contagious!
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How can you start feeling confident in your own skin?
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- Learn to love your body here and now
Don’t wait to lose weight or get thin to start liking yourself. Stop looking at your body as a “project” and accept it as the home you live in – the only one you have. This doesn’t mean you can’t plan to improve your home but you should begin to love it regardless of its imperfections.
- Master the art of self-confidence
There is nothing more attractive than a woman who knows her worth. Try this: straighten your back, lift your chin, smile. Confident poise not only changes the way others perceive you, but also the way you feel about yourself. Never forget that if all else fails you truly can fake it till you make it!
- Discover your own sex appeal
For some it’s a beautiful lace dress, for others it’s a favourite piece of lingerie. And sometimes it’s just the feeling of inner harmony. Find what makes you feel feminine and sexy and indulge in it more often!
- Get out of your head and into your body
We are often so busy thinking about how we look that we forget how we feel. In intimate moments, focus on your sensations, not on whether “the angle is right” or if “the lighting flatters your figure”. Be in the here and now – enjoyment is in the present.
- Surround yourself with the right people
Self-confidence thrives in an environment that supports you. If your partner is making you doubt yourself and your girlfriends are constantly being hyper-critical of themselves and others it’s time to reconsider your company. Inspirational women surround themselves with others like them.
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Sexual confidence starts from within
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Sex is pleasure, but the real pleasure comes when you feel relaxed and confident in your body. Remember – you are sexy exactly as you are. And the confidence? It doesn’t come with weight, measurements or age. It comes from knowing how much you are worth.
Next time you look in the mirror, instead of looking for imperfections, remind yourself, “I am amazing. My body is beautiful and I deserve to feel good in it”.
Enjoy the intimacy – without excuses, without hesitation and without unnecessary thoughts. Slowly but surely even taking little steps everyday will help you turn into the woman you dream of being!
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Sources:
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/01461672241257355
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2020-04-24/how-to-feel-sexually-confident/12109726
