There comes a time when you realize that your life is not an Excel spreadsheet.
No matter how you color code your schedule with plans, deadlines, and ambitious goals. Reality likes to press Delete at the most unexpected moment. Today, you may be sure that the next five years are completely predictable. Your job, relationships, travels, maybe even your family. But tomorrow, a meeting, a phone call, or a small change is enough to derail your plans.
And if until yesterday you believed that stability meant plan A, backed up by plan B and a colorfully marked calendar, today you feel differently. True stability has nothing to do with predictability. It lies within you, in the courage to say, “Whatever happens, I’ll be fine.” Because the future never comes in just one version. It always arrives with a whole list of possibilities. And sometimes the most unexpected one is the one that takes you to the right place.
At first glance, this may sound a little scary. But it can also be liberating, right? Because if nothing is guaranteed, then anything is possible.
Life is not a TV series with a script
Sometimes we want to be in control, as if we were the writers of our own Netflix series. But reality is closer to a Turkish soap opera with 250 episodes, unexpected twists, and characters that appear out of nowhere. However, there is also a silver lining in this. Uncertainty is the spice that makes our lives exciting. If everything were predictable, we wouldn’t have anything to text our friends about at 2 a.m., for example.
Plans and Surprises
Let’s admit it: how many times have you had a “solid plan,” and then everything went in a completely different direction? Career, love, friendship. Life likes to shuffle the cards. And just when you think you’re in control of the game, that moment comes that can change everything. It could be the two lines on a pregnancy test. Sometimes it’s the most long-awaited news, other times it comes like a bolt from the blue and presents you with an unexpected challenge.
Stability is inside, not outside
Forget the old definitions of stability long-term employment with one company, a mortgage on an apartment, retirement after 30 years of work. True stability is much more intimate and personal. It is the quiet knowledge that whatever happens, you will find a way to cope.
This applies to your career when a project fails. It applies to love when your heart has been broken. It also applies to family when relationships change. You feel it when you hold a test in your hands and know that it could change your life completely. That’s when you realize that stability isn’t in the circumstances but in you in your ability to adapt, to embrace the new role or not. You decide.
Small rituals for great peace of mind
When the world feels like a merry-go-round, balance can be found in small things. They are your anchors and remind you that you still have power over how you live today. Breathing is the simplest and most powerful weapon. Just a few slow breaths in and out can bring you back to the here and now, even when your thoughts are racing into the future.
Honesty with yourself is also magic. Tell yourself, “I can’t control everything, but I can choose how to react.” If you allow the unknown to exist without frightening you, you open up space for new possibilities. And don’t the most spontaneous evenings leave the best memories?
This is where small rituals come into play: morning coffee that smells like a warm hug. A walk where you forget your phone and listen only to your footsteps. The conversation with a friend who knows how to make you laugh even when you’re on the verge of a nervous breakdown. And if you’re expecting a baby, the moments when you put your hand on your belly and feel that life is different now but more beautiful because of it.
Accept the future as a friend
Instead of fighting the future and blaming it for not fitting your plans, try to accept it. Imagine that it’s that friend who always takes you to the most unexpected places. Sometimes to a date that ends disastrously, other times to a party you’ll remember for the rest of your life. It doesn’t give you what you asked for, but it gives you new lessons, new perspectives, and new versions of yourself.
The future is not an enemy to be defeated. It is an ally that teaches you to be flexible. Every time your plans fail, you develop new strength. Every time you encounter an unexpected turn, you discover a new side of yourself. And yes the best things sometimes come when absolutely nothing was planned.
The conclusion?
True stability is not about holding the helm with force and fear that the boat will tilt. True stability is in the confidence that even when the waves overwhelm you, you will still find the strength to swim and reach the shore. The future has countless versions, and each of them may seem scary at first. But in each of these versions, you are the main character the woman who carries the story, the strength, and the charm.
